Blog Activity Update (BLOG CLOSED)

Hey, all -

Unfortunately, the wonderful Mod Zay has had to step back from the blog (please feel free to leave them thanks and good vibes in the comments because they put a great deal of effort into this blog and provided so many wonderful resources), so I, Pluto, am once again modding alone.

I will be answering the asks left in the inbox, but I’m going to be closing up our ask/submit for a while and thinking about the future of this blog. I will probably be reblogging the odd post now and then, so I’ll still be around, but I know I cannot keep up on asks right now, so as of Dec 12, 2020 I’m going to close the inbox rather than let people submit asks that may not be answered.

I’m so sorry. I know this is disappointing and frustrating. Please know our blog is still a resource, so there’s still plenty on here for you to check out if you need help.

Please do a little reading around our blog and try logical searches/tags to check and see if your question has been answered before.

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Talk to you all later,

~Pluto

How long have you been an out nonbinary actor? And what has that experience been like?

It was less of an “out” situation and more an understanding within myself telling the person I love, and my mother who bore me. My mom didn’t really understand what it meant. And then I gave a textbook definition. She goes, Oh yeah, great, great, great. This was before people started putting pronouns everywhere on monikers or handles or résumés. There was no language around that. And once the language around it started coming out, then I’m like, Okay, I’ll just attach this.

I’ve had the privilege of viewing pronouns in a way that other people in our queer family have not. If you per se identified as she/her you may not have had the freedom to do that in previous years. And so you identifying in that and me respecting that is part of what keeps you safe, it’s part of what makes you freer. So I was like, well, let me, for myself, but also for my queer family, make sure that I am as clear as I can be about my pronouns. And so I was. I’m less demanding about it than other people are just because that’s my experience. It’s been about just going on three years of walking in a truth and acknowledging the truth when it’s asked.

But it’s weird being in this space now because I’m being asked often to somewhat explain myself.

Sure.

So it’s been a few years of taking it step-by-step, conversation by conversation, invite by invite, really. I’m not here to prove myself to anyone. It’s not for someone else’s understanding. It’s for my own enlightenment. You have to respect me, but you don’t need to understand me. I’m not here to do the very real research and work that I’ve had to do for someone else.

Anonymous asked:

PLEASE DON’T DOWNLOAD SHINAGAMI EYES - there’s a lawsuit filed in Norway because the source code can EASILY be used to out trans people. You’re putting trans people’s lives in danger by supporting an extention that literally tracks them.

fandomshatelgbtqpeople replied:

After receiving your ask I immediately went to verify what you said and I believe you may have misinterpreted some of the information about the lawsuit.

https://www.infosecurity-magazine.com/news/shinigami-eyes-reported-to/

I will be referring to the above link. Please know that it comes from a website dedicated to infosec. If Shinigami Eyes was a leaky app I believe the website would have noted this. Now let’s get into the lawsuit.

The lawsuit contends that Shinigami Eyes violates Norway’s online privacy law and it is filed by a civil liberties organization called Electronic Frontier Norway.

“EFN finds that the use of the program and the operation of the database it uses likely constitutes multiple violations of the GDPR and its Norwegian implementation,” said a spokesperson for EFN.

“The most egregious of these being the clear violation of Article 9 which prohibits the registrations of people’s political views, philosophical convictions and physical persons’ sexual relations or sexual orientations etc.”

My experience with civil liberties organizations is that they tend to take the side of this is your right and I will defend it no matter if you are a good person or a bad person. Think of how many lawsuits the ACLU has filed First Amendment lawsuits on behalf of Nazis.

Their website is here.

https://old.efn.no/eng-index.html

In the bottom of the website they have a button that denotes their Blue Ribbon Online Free Speech Campaign. This leads me to believe that they will fight for free speech on principal.

The part of the lawsuit that is most alarming if read outside of this context is this.

“The software can be used to identify targets for online harassment, doxing, cyberstalking and even physical attacks,” said the NGO.

Now I would not blame anyone for seeing that allegation and worrying that Shinigami Eyes might be used to target them. However given that it makes no mention of who the targets of this potential harassment are, I believe it equally possible that the EFN worries about Terfs being harassed online because of how they are marked.

In conclusion, I do not believe that Shinigami Eyes posses a danger to the trans community here. I believe this lawsuit was filed in earnest by an organization who believe it is there job to protect the online privacy rights of all individuals including terfs.

Shinigami Eyes allows you to mark blogs as transphobic or trans friendly. It does not track the apps users it is basically a community block list. The potential to be targeted based on if your name appears as red or green remains if you use the app or not. If you are concerned about it don’t use it. But we believe it is a good tool to use to prevent engagement with terfs.

breadbank:

logichotline:

Trans Fashion tips

These are actually non basic clothing tips that can definitely help you

CC:

[So, when you want to put together outfits that feel more androgynous, it’s important to consider not just what you’re wearing, but how you’re wearing it. Depending on the way you place pieces of clothing on your body will determine whether they’re masculinizing or feminizing and how that works with the rest of you.

A hat worn against the back of your head is far more feminizing because it frames and circles your face, where as a hat worn across the brow jars your features more, thus making you feel more masculine. 

A shirt that is not tucked into your pants may give you a more feminine shape because it softens your silhouette, where as one that is, sharpens it. 

It’s also important to consider that large glasses will feminize your face, whereas small glasses will masculinize it.

When piecing these things together it can really make a difference about how your outfit is read

But keep in mind that your appearance has nothing to do with your gender identity, these are just some tips]

toraziyal:

happy tdov to polyam trans people, arospec trans people, queer trans people, he/him lesbians + she/her gays, neopronoun users and people whose identity doesn’t fit into western ideas of gender and sexuality. ur personhood is not up for debate and doesn’t require validation or acceptance from anyone in order to be beautiful and real.

catboy-dysphoria:

It’s Trans Day of Visibility!

Today, please consider what sorts of trans people are visible.

Art of trans bodies is overwhelmingly white, is overwhelmingly trans men with top surgery scars and vulvas and trans women with breasts and a penis.

There are trans men/transmascs who don’t get top surgery! There’s also trans men/transmascs who get bottom surgery! I’ve never ever seen any art of phalloplasties/metoidioplasties, or even the scars on the arm/leg that come with them. There’s even trans men/transmascs who never go on HRT!

There are trans women/transfemmes who don’t have noticable breasts! There are even some transfemmes who wear binders or get top surgery to keep a flat chest. There are also transfemmes who get bottom surgery, and transfemmes who never go on HRT!

Trans people have all sorts of body/genital combinations!

Trans people have bodies as diverse as our souls.

“Trans” should not become another binary set of body types.

Trans people do not become trans only after we medically transition!

If you’re an artist who wants to depict more types of trans bodies, I highly recommend Transbucket. It has a huge range of gender confirmation procedures with lots of pictures.

battlefordreamisiand:

hey trans people who dont “pass” or arent out or dont experience dysphoria or dont want to transition or cant transition for whatever reason or arent “conventionally attractive” or paritally identify as your agab i see you. i love you so much. you are an incredibly important and necessary part of the trans community and your experiences with transphobia and invalidation due to your attributes or your identity or the situation you’re in doesn’t make you any less trans

wwwdotcom:

A reminder on this TDOV that autistic trans people are amazing!!

A higher portion of trans people are autistic compared to that of the general population, and there are many many theories as to why that is. But I personally don’t care why, I just feel blessed to have so many amazing trans people in the autistic community and so many amazing autistic people in the trans community 🏳️‍⚧️❤️♾

chaosofbattle:

it’s trans day of visibility! i’ve seen posts circulating about the transphobic bills being passed in arkansas and alabama, but i haven’t seen much about how almost every other state has several transphobic bills up for discussion that can still be prevented.

you can go to this link: https://freedomforallamericans.org/legislative-tracker/anti-transgender-legislation/ to see which bills are before your state legislature, and then GO CONTACT YOUR STATE REPS!!!!! call, email, testify, protest, do whatever you’re comfortable with that will make your voice heard. we can still stop these bills from becoming law.

acid-atlas:

elierlick:

earhartsease:

elierlick:

Have some extra clothes lying around? Bored of that band T? Ever wish you could share your pre-transition clothes with trans people in need? Now you can! GayCare is excited to host a one-of-a-kind clothing donation system, Trans Clothing Swap. This unique project allows individuals anywhere in the U.S. to donate and receive gender-affirming clothing for free. Check it out at GayCare.nyc/transclothingswap!

Save us from having to wear all greys and browns

Okay, I realize we’re all wearing gray, black, and brown boxes in this but I swear the site has lots of colorful stuff, too!

There’s also a UK version called Trans-Me-Downs

starfoozle:

natureheldmeclosezine:

Volume 1 of Nature Held Me Close is now available. 

Read and download it here.

Volume 2 coming soon: thank you to everyone who participated!

Bringing this back to add that Volume 2 is also available at the link above, and a new call for submissions is live for the 2021 edition of Nature Held Me Close! If you enjoyed this zine, please consider sharing your own work in the next volume!

[image ID: a photo of fern-like leaves that goes dark in the middle. The title reads “Nature Held Me Close”. Below that is text in a dark green circle reading “A zine about gender dysphoria and the great outdoors”. Finally, at the bottom is the text “Volume 1”. /end ID]

teenlib:

zacharylevis:

Many of the political attacks on trans people—whether it is a mandate that bathroom use be determined by birth sex, a blanket ban on medical interventions for trans kids or the suggestion that trans men are simply wayward women beguiled by male privilege—carry the same subtext: that trans people are mistaken about who they are. “We know who we are,” Page says. “People cling to these firm ideas [about gender] because it makes people feel safe. But if we could just celebrate all the wonderful complexities of people, the world would be such a better place.”

Page was attracted to the role of Vanya in The Umbrella Academy because—in the first season, released in 2019—Vanya is crushed by self-loathing, believing herself to be the only ordinary sibling in an extraordinary family. The character can barely summon the courage to move through the world. “I related to how much Vanya was closed off,” Page says. Now on set filming the third season, co-workers have seen a change in the actor. “It seems like there’s a tremendous weight off his shoulders, a feeling of comfort,” says showrunner Steve Blackman. “There’s a lightness, a lot more smiling.” For Page, returning to set has been validating, if awkward at times. Yes, people accidentally use the wrong pronouns—“It’s going to be an adjustment,” Page says—but co-workers also see and acknowledge him.

Whatever challenges might lie ahead, Page seems exuberant about playing a new spectrum of roles. “I’m really excited to act, now that I’m fully who I am, in this body,” Page says. “No matter the challenges and difficult moments of this, nothing amounts to getting to feel how I feel now.” This includes having short hair again. During the interview, Page keeps rearranging strands on his forehead. It took a long time for him to return to the barber’s chair and ask to cut it short, but he got there. And how did that haircut feel?

Page tears up again, then smiles. “I just could not have enjoyed it more,” he says.

ELLIOT PAGE
for TIME Magazine › 2021
interview by Katy Steinmetz, photography by Wynne Neilly

It took me a second to recognize him, and then I immediately started tearing up.

[photo ID: a series of three photographs of Elliot Page in a white shirt and jeans and hair cut above their ears.

The first photo, Elliot is sitting sideways in a white chair, puling up a sock, as a small dog sniffs at the chair. He is not looking at the camera.

The second photo is a close-up of Elliot sitting on a backwards chair, arms folded over the back, staring directly into the camera, and with a cool yellow background.

The third photo, Elliot is sitting reclined and leisurely in a chair, one knee up, and giving a coy glance to the camera.

/end ID]